The second day back home, married daughter: not into her husband’s home, not back to her home

2022-05-05 0 By

Today is the second day of the Lunar New Year, the day to go back home, but there are too many dregs in Chinese traditional customs, for example, the married daughter can not go back home for the Spring Festival, can only go back home to visit relatives on the second day of the lunar New Year.Because the old people have a saying that the married daughter is someone else, the Chinese New Year is the day of his family reunion, married daughter will rush back.Will bring bad luck to her family in the New Year, so the married daughter is not welcome to come back to her family for the New Year.I have a friend Xinyan. This is the first year of her marriage, and she has not returned to her home for the Spring Festival for three years because of the epidemic.This time is not easy to have a holiday, she wants to return home hunan New Year’s Day, have already returned home 5 days in advance, stay at home to the third day, xin Yan’s mother advised her daughter not to spend the New Year’s day in her parents’ home, want her to go back to her husband’s home, say what the New Year all want to spend the New Year in her husband’s home, come back home very unlucky.And even when you come back home, you can’t sleep in the same bed with your husband. You need to sleep separately, otherwise it will bring bad luck.In their hearts, married daughters are like water poured out, so do not come back for the Spring Festival to avoid bad luck.In addition, there is a saying that a married daughter can not go back to her mother’s home for the Spring Festival, which will bring ruin to his brothers and sisters and embarrass their family. This is a feudal thought.But there are also many people think that have to prevent, back home for the New Year, indicates that the daughter for her family and sentimentally attached, but do not let the daughter back home for the New Year, is for the daughter to her family cold heart, so that he can be single-minded for the sake of her husband’s family, rooted in her husband’s family.This is a way to marry the daughter in ancient times, the main reason is that the marriage in ancient feudal society is decided by the parents, and many daughters are not satisfied with this marriage, so the family will adopt this way, let their daughter to accept the fate, to work hard for the sake of the family.One year my old aunt because of the old uncle domestic violence, the 28th month of the twelfth month back to her mother’s home.The old uncle didn’t come to pick up grandpa and grandma when the Chinese New Year, and she couldn’t get her daughter back. On the eve of the Chinese New Year, she just let the old aunt stand on the street for a night.Because if a married daughter sees the lanterns in her parents’ house, her parents’ brothers can’t afford to live, so no one welcomes her home for the Spring Festival.Xiaoting is a woman who marries far away, regardless of whether she can go back to her mother’s home for the New Year, even the second day to visit her mother’s home is charity.Distant marriage brings only regret, because distant marriage abandoned too much, wronged even a place to go.Xiaoting in the outside struggle hard for a year, want to go home for the Spring Festival is also said by her husband, “the road is so far, so tired by train, why go back?””Your home day is so cold, go back also follow suffer, you this mother is too selfish?””The woman got married in her husband’s home for the New Year, you hypocritical!”This year xiaoting could not persuade her husband, so she asked her mother to call her son-in-law.Who knows the mother said: “silly child, in your husband’s home for the New Year, don’t come back…”Hunan these days are under the heavy snow, these days back to her husband’s home, the mood is like the snow, cold, like the snow, good appearance actually like has been cold.The custom of my husband’s family is completely different from that of my own family. They are very happy, and I feel very bored. I don’t understand a word they say, but the other party is very happy.As soon as there is a problem, they will point all contradictions at you, think you are a foreigner, do not treat you as an outsider at all.Husband’s family is husband’s family, lively is always theirs, you are just a far place to marry over.No matter whether it is a hoax, the first two can not go back to the home is a realistic drama.A long-distance marriage is to leave a place where you grew up and go to a completely strange city, where you have no relatives you are familiar with except your husband and his family. It seems difficult to go back to your parents’ home with your family after the long journey and hard journey.However, to the strange city in addition to the place of work and their home, no habitat, it is really noisy do not know where steps, a person’s place is more desolate pain, walk in the streets of a second hometown, no sense of familiarity, no direction of the street, lost himself is a moment of things.The dialect I don’t understand, the meal I can’t get used to, the climate I can’t adapt to can become a person at any time to collapse, “alone in a foreign land as a stranger, every festive festival times”, this year, I really felt a distant married woman’s sorrow: can’t get into her husband’s home, can’t go back to her home.Due to the influence of traditional customs, women in rural areas will be strictly constrained in all aspects. In ancient times, they pay attention to three obedience and four virtues, and follow their husbands when they marry. Even if they marry a bad husband, they can only swallow the bitter water to their stomach.Not only married daughters are not allowed to celebrate the Spring Festival in their parents’ home, but also the 15th day of the first lunar month and the 2nd day of the second lunar month.I don’t know if your hometown has the custom of “avoiding needles” during the Chinese New Year. From the first day of the first lunar month to the tenth day of the first lunar month, you can’t do needlework. In fact, in the past, women were busy with needlework every day.The first day of the second day of the whole family can not move the needle and thread, the third day of the fourth day is the thief three fire four meaning, not to move, away from home for a long time, the specific meaning of every day, I forget almost.But this is a new era and women’s status has improved.If you are not happy, you will get divorced. Although you will be talked about by others, it is better than suffering your whole life.But the road is their own choice, even if kneeling also want to finish it, in case one day fell down and could not get up, also want to finish it with tears in his eyes.Hope to read the article you, today can return to the family, also can be treated well by the family and her husband’s family.On the second day of the lunar New Year, can I stay with my parents for a few days?Or do you have to come and go the same day?Please leave comments about the customs in your place.# New Year diary # article/Mu Zimo, pictures: from the network, if there is infringement, please contact the author to delete.I am Mu Zi mo, multi-platform millions of popular article author, I have a pen, only to write the warm and cold, if you also have a story, welcome to leave a message or private letter to tell me, I am waiting for you here.A New Year’s Eve dinner, old mother collapse: next year or I cook, you don’t come back to the Spring Festival Gala also have to talk about money, money interesting look forward to, this is life three facts want to know more exciting content, come to pay attention to Mu Zi Mo